http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/secrets-women-keep-0308?click=pp
This article was about what girls should keep from their significant others. I thought it was interesting because I work in a shoe department and a lot of women always tell me they are going to be in trouble when they get home. Some will even tell me to throw away the boxes because it will make it easier to sneak in the new shoes. I know that men get uptight about it but I don't quite understand it, especially if you aren't married and sharing an income. Why do you care what shoes or things I buy? Do you think about the future and that we will waste money on "unnecessary things" in your mind? Although a lot of us women don't think a 60 inch TV is necessary. Another question I have is, if you want us to like your gift, why must you get something we didn't ask for? We don't always want jewelry!
The top five things to keep from your sweetie were:
1. Past Hookups
2. How you spend your money
3. The way you feel about his family
4. Innocent Flirtations
5. What you really think of his gift
This article was about what girls should keep from their significant others. I thought it was interesting because I work in a shoe department and a lot of women always tell me they are going to be in trouble when they get home. Some will even tell me to throw away the boxes because it will make it easier to sneak in the new shoes. I know that men get uptight about it but I don't quite understand it, especially if you aren't married and sharing an income. Why do you care what shoes or things I buy? Do you think about the future and that we will waste money on "unnecessary things" in your mind? Although a lot of us women don't think a 60 inch TV is necessary. Another question I have is, if you want us to like your gift, why must you get something we didn't ask for? We don't always want jewelry!
The top five things to keep from your sweetie were:
1. Past Hookups
2. How you spend your money
3. The way you feel about his family
4. Innocent Flirtations
5. What you really think of his gift
As this is probably true for women, I don't think the list is a whole lot different for men. These are all things that could bring complications and stress upon the relationship, but are somewhat harmless in the big picture.
I agree that "how you spend your money" is usually completely harmless(unless it's wasted on gambling, drugs, other bad habits) as long as you don't share your money. Although most relationships are built on trust, some things may be better off not mentioned, and this list is a pretty good summary of those things.
I always laugh at some of the articles magazines such as Cosmo advertise. I think all they do is cause trouble and I don't agree with this article at all. If you have a good relationship with somebody then there is no reason to lie or be sneaky or hide certain things from your significant other. I think it is important to be honest in your relationship, however I can see "omitting" certain things. Your significant other does not need to know absolutely everything, but I don't think you should have to lie just to avoid conflict. However, this categories have never been an issue for me because we have been together for so long that these categories don't really have an affect on our relationship. So, I can understand how some of these categories can have a negative affect on some relationships.
I thought this article was interesting. Personally is you aren't sharing an income then neither the boyfriend or girlfriend should have any say what that person does with their money. If they are married and have a joint income then it is a different story. I think the problem lies in the difference in perception of needs and wants between men and women. The types of items men buy are thing that appear to be practical. You don't often seen men buying three different colors of a shirt because they don't know which one will go better with their outfit. What you do see a man doing is picking out a belt that is reversible (one side black and the other side brown) so that is does go with everything .
one more note: I also work in retail and I have women who do not want a bad because it is easier to get it into the house. Or I have women who make comments like: I need to get going so i can get thing stuff in the house before my husband gets home.
I thought this article was kind of funny, but most of the articles in cosmo are. I agree with some of what was said, like not sharing everything that you buy. The list is a good summary of what could be avoided in telling your partner, but i do not think lying about these things is good for a relationship. A relationship should be honest and if you have to "hide" something or do not feel comfortable telling the truth (about most things) to your partner then there might be a problem.